Well friends, I apologize, but you’re going to get an emotionally driven post… But this post is moreso directed at the Daddies out there, specifically those that have daughters. Now, where I know that if you’re a parent, you already know all this good stuff, but it at least makes me feel useful to impart some knowledge and experience that was gained from losing my father. It’s been a rough year, but writing is my therapy, and where it helps me, maybe it can do something for you.
All of you Daddies out there that have daughters, know that you are her first love, she’s always watching you, and you will be the measure for how she relates to men.
Whether she’s two years old in something pink and frilly, a teenager going on a date, or a grown woman going out for a night on the town; when she shows you her outfit, smile and tell her she’s beautiful. A woman should always feel pretty, and she’s going to gauge that smile coming from any man that comes into her life, and know whether it’s sincere or not.
If she takes interest in a sport, wants to go fishing or wants to help you fix the car; teach her how to do these things. Teach her how to do anything that she asks, there are no such things as gender roles. And you know what? She’s going to be wonderfully independent and not need to depend on a man, this hopefully helps her find a man that treats her well, as he’s someone she wants, not someone she needs.
From the minute she toddles into the room while you’re playing your records (yes I’m dating myself here), don’t shoo her away from the turntable for fear of her moving the needle. Show her your interests, show her the movies and music you love. You get to be her first exposure to culture, show her what you love and she may like it too. Or she’ll at least become well rounded enough to see vast tastes and choose her own.
Be the man that supports his family and shows her what it means to care for others that we love in our lives. Show her the work ethic and that you provided for her, because you love her, and want to give her the best start to succeed.
Treat the women in your life well. Afterall, she is going to gauge how she allows a man to treat her as she sees you treating women, and this will be the template that shows her what is “okay” and acceptable behaviour. Does it necessarily mean that you’re together with her mother? No, but it does mean that you show respect and common decency towards women.
Daughters always watch their Daddies….You’re going to shape her friendships, her loves, and her family.
It’s coming up on a rough time of year for me; I lost my Daddy a year ago (almost) now, and I think of all the values I still strive to look for in my male relationships and whereas I haven’t had much luck yet, it’s given me a wonderful standard to measure against… And I wouldn’t trade it for the world.