To whom it may concern…

Dearest Prince Charming,


I’ve chosen to address you in such a vague name, as your identity still eludes me as many have come in guise before you that have lead me to believe that you had been found.  But alas, you have either been detained by distraction or injury or perhaps worse….  I know that they say there is someone out there for everyone, but well, I’m almost sure that my someone has been hit by a bus.


Though if you are still out there, I have a few criteria to request of you… I’m not going to go through and outline all of the standard qualifications, I’m hoping that the gist of men out there understand the standards of honesty, respect, kindness, consideration, etc…..But there are some simple little asset qualifications that I miss of you in your absence:


Be there when I want to share something; that is something I want in life is someone to share things with.  If it’s a bad day, let me vent, you don’t have to fix whatever problem I may be having or even offer a solution, but just be there.  When I have good news I want to share it with you too, good things are part of life as well!  If I’m happy, excited or passionate about something, I’ve lately been rushing home to tell my cat, and while my Siamese purrs with delight and rubs his nose against me in humble agreement it’s not quite the returned response that I so desire.


Share your life with me.  Talk to me about it, whether mundane or exciting.  These relationship things are two way streets and I feel important if you wish to include me in things, even if it’s just information sharing.  As said above, bad news or good news, let’s share!  As a man, I know this isn’t in your realm of doing so uber openly, but I’m patient and you’ll learn; or I’ll learn how you do this in your own way.


Hold my hand.  I am an affectionate creature and sometimes I seem starved of this the most in my life.  If this request seems lame to you, then you are obviously not whom this letter is meant for.  But it’s such a simple response when you care about someone even a little bit.  Most times it’s done absently while watching a movie, walking down a street, or driving a car.  But that one little physical connection, where you need to be touching me just because we’re occupying the same space, makes a woman feel wanted, ya know?


Let me know that I’m being thought of.  I am not saying stay in constant communication with me when we’re not in the same location, and I don’t demand even anything daily, I know I’m not going to occupy your mind all of the time, there are other things in life.  I’ve spent a lot of my adult life alone in my romantic life, my expectations in this department aren’t over the top or unrealistic.  But you would be surprised what a random text of “hello gorgeous” or “I hope you’re having a good day” does; I’d know I was on your mind and you took the time (even just 30 seconds) to let me know.  Or even a quick phone chat, just to hear my voice.


Dance with me.  If you’re with me, I am going to ask you to do alot of seemingly stupid and funny little things throughout the years, and there are times that you’re going to humour me.  I really love music, it’s part of my life daily (I’m always humming or singing something, much to the annoyance of people around me at the office), and music can evoke some of the most intense emotion and associate alot of memories with it.  Now, I’m not going to ask you to do this often (unless you really like to), but every now and then just hold me close, stroke my back, and sway with me to some music; we can be in a pub, a bar, or even in my living room.  It doesn’t matter where we are, humour me please (my cat already thanks you for your consideration in this matter specifically, lol).


If these simple requests are within your realm of experience and qualification please feel free to implement them into practice if you so choose to make application for this position.  I look forward to hearing from you.  Applicants may be required to submit to a brief interview or testing by close family and/or friends.  It has been brought to my attention that my own prior applicant screening for final acceptance has not had a high success rate, so consultants may be involved.


Warmest Regards,



18 comments on “To whom it may concern…

  1. Beautiful. I think all men need this reminder…:)

  2. Asking a man to dance with you is a clear violation of the UN’s International Treaty on the Rights of Men. I would, at this time, pay tribute to the traditional culture of Turkey, in which the women danced for the men.

    Talk about a win-win situation! Long live Patriarchy! };-))>

    For the record, I was thinking of you as I wrote this. River Belly Dance.

  3. KG says:

    Lovely…why do I feel like you are my long lost clone 😉

  4. thrallex says:

    I really should not have read this today, but its lovely waiting, its sometimes silly to think that those things can go unvalued.

  5. Shelley says:

    I agree that these are good criteria 🙂 however I have found that in my experience most men are already this considerate thankfully! At least here in Quebec they are! And as one of your consultants I just want to add that anyone applying for this position will need to be damn near perfect or you will be vetoed. Just saying!

  6. Lindsay says:

    I love this. Plain and simple.

  7. […] Now people, please know, when I created this blog and coined the term “Prince Charming”, I by no means searched or waited for perfection or royalty or wealth, or anything else for that matter that would be associated as “princely”..But I was waiting for my match; I was waiting for imperfections I could love perfectly, and someone that would do the same for me in return… I think he may have even read “To whom it may concern…”… […]

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