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Daddies and their daughters

Well friends, I apologize, but you’re going to get an emotionally driven post… But this post is moreso directed at the Daddies out there, specifically those that have daughters. Now, where I know that if you’re a parent, you already know all this good stuff, but it at least makes me feel useful to impart some knowledge and experience that was gained from losing my father.   It’s been a rough year, but writing is my therapy, and where it helps me, maybe it can do something for you.

All of you Daddies out there that have daughters, know that you are her first love, she’s always watching you, and you will be the measure for how she relates to men.

Whether she’s two years old in something pink and frilly, a teenager going on a date, or a grown woman going out for a night on the town; when she shows you her outfit, smile and tell her she’s beautiful. A woman should always feel pretty, and she’s going to gauge that smile coming from any man that comes into her life, and know whether it’s sincere or not.

If she takes interest in a sport, wants to go fishing or wants to help you fix the car; teach her how to do these things. Teach her how to do anything that she asks, there are no such things as gender roles. And you know what? She’s going to be wonderfully independent and not need to depend on a man, this hopefully helps her find a man that treats her well, as he’s someone she wants, not someone she needs.

From the minute she toddles into the room while you’re playing your records (yes I’m dating myself here), don’t shoo her away from the turntable for fear of her moving the needle.  Show her your interests, show her the movies and music you love.  You get to be her first exposure to culture, show her what you love and she may like it too.  Or she’ll at least become well rounded enough to see vast tastes and choose her own.

Be the man that supports his family and shows her what it means to care for others that we love in our lives.  Show her the work ethic and that you provided for her, because you love her, and want to give her the best start to succeed.

Treat the women in your life well.  Afterall, she is going to gauge how she allows a man to treat her as she sees you treating women, and this will be the template that shows her what is “okay” and acceptable behaviour.  Does it necessarily mean that you’re together with her mother?  No, but it does mean that you show respect and common decency towards women.

Daughters always watch their Daddies….You’re going to shape her friendships, her loves, and her family.

It’s coming up on a rough time of year for me; I lost my Daddy a year ago (almost) now, and I think of all the values I still strive to look for in my male relationships and whereas I haven’t had much luck yet, it’s given me a wonderful standard to measure against… And I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

Still learning….

To whom it may concern…

Dearest Prince Charming,

 

I’ve chosen to address you in such a vague name, as your identity still eludes me as many have come in guise before you that have lead me to believe that you had been found.  But alas, you have either been detained by distraction or injury or perhaps worse….  I know that they say there is someone out there for everyone, but well, I’m almost sure that my someone has been hit by a bus.

 

Though if you are still out there, I have a few criteria to request of you… I’m not going to go through and outline all of the standard qualifications, I’m hoping that the gist of men out there understand the standards of honesty, respect, kindness, consideration, etc…..But there are some simple little asset qualifications that I miss of you in your absence:

 

Be there when I want to share something; that is something I want in life is someone to share things with.  If it’s a bad day, let me vent, you don’t have to fix whatever problem I may be having or even offer a solution, but just be there.  When I have good news I want to share it with you too, good things are part of life as well!  If I’m happy, excited or passionate about something, I’ve lately been rushing home to tell my cat, and while my Siamese purrs with delight and rubs his nose against me in humble agreement it’s not quite the returned response that I so desire.

 

Share your life with me.  Talk to me about it, whether mundane or exciting.  These relationship things are two way streets and I feel important if you wish to include me in things, even if it’s just information sharing.  As said above, bad news or good news, let’s share!  As a man, I know this isn’t in your realm of doing so uber openly, but I’m patient and you’ll learn; or I’ll learn how you do this in your own way.

 

Hold my hand.  I am an affectionate creature and sometimes I seem starved of this the most in my life.  If this request seems lame to you, then you are obviously not whom this letter is meant for.  But it’s such a simple response when you care about someone even a little bit.  Most times it’s done absently while watching a movie, walking down a street, or driving a car.  But that one little physical connection, where you need to be touching me just because we’re occupying the same space, makes a woman feel wanted, ya know?

 

Let me know that I’m being thought of.  I am not saying stay in constant communication with me when we’re not in the same location, and I don’t demand even anything daily, I know I’m not going to occupy your mind all of the time, there are other things in life.  I’ve spent a lot of my adult life alone in my romantic life, my expectations in this department aren’t over the top or unrealistic.  But you would be surprised what a random text of “hello gorgeous” or “I hope you’re having a good day” does; I’d know I was on your mind and you took the time (even just 30 seconds) to let me know.  Or even a quick phone chat, just to hear my voice.

 

Dance with me.  If you’re with me, I am going to ask you to do alot of seemingly stupid and funny little things throughout the years, and there are times that you’re going to humour me.  I really love music, it’s part of my life daily (I’m always humming or singing something, much to the annoyance of people around me at the office), and music can evoke some of the most intense emotion and associate alot of memories with it.  Now, I’m not going to ask you to do this often (unless you really like to), but every now and then just hold me close, stroke my back, and sway with me to some music; we can be in a pub, a bar, or even in my living room.  It doesn’t matter where we are, humour me please (my cat already thanks you for your consideration in this matter specifically, lol).

 

If these simple requests are within your realm of experience and qualification please feel free to implement them into practice if you so choose to make application for this position.  I look forward to hearing from you.  Applicants may be required to submit to a brief interview or testing by close family and/or friends.  It has been brought to my attention that my own prior applicant screening for final acceptance has not had a high success rate, so consultants may be involved.

 

Warmest Regards,

Waiting